Friends.
When you take a thorough look at your circle of confidants, advice-givers, cried on shoulders, lenders but never return, and etc. do you see what you strive to become or do you see an convenience? When I say convenience what I'm referring to is those friends who you hear from the most when they need something...the ones who always want to tell you their problems but almost never have time to hear yours...the ones that deep down inside you know you should give this person the boot, but they are good for having a good time and not a sober moment. These I am calling convenience friends. With friends like these where is the self-growth and who is really using who, because these are the ones who are only out to benefit themselves...
When I select a friend ( I say select because everyone should have an interview process for those who they want to include in their lives) I look for those who have something going for themselves...meaning they are on my goal oriented level or better...if they are not where they want to be, they at least have a plan to get there and have the drive to get there. Not just a lump on a log with plans of going somewhere but not gathering what they need to move...these people can bring you down and/or make you complacent where you are when you could be striving for so much more...
Throughout my life I have always had a tight knit circle of friends and many associates that just never made the cut...they were the ones that were good for a good time but not for sober moments. There is a lot you can find out about a person within a few minutes of being around them, especially when they are around people whom they have known for a while...either you will see their true colors which you will like or dislike, or you will see that this person is a "Human Chameleon"(note the previous blog). And this is why I feel an interview process is necessary, because you don't need a lot of non-trustworthy people around you when you need to vent or share special moments...this is when a backstabber is born. (I'll leave that one for another time :))
But in closing, evaluate your circle from time to time, because times change including financial, marital, social, etc. and sometimes good things begin to wither over time. Maintaining a good upkeep can ensure that watching your back in the process is the least of your worries, because you will have reliable people around you to cover whatever angle you may miss.
So how many of them do you really have?
When you take a thorough look at your circle of confidants, advice-givers, cried on shoulders, lenders but never return, and etc. do you see what you strive to become or do you see an convenience? When I say convenience what I'm referring to is those friends who you hear from the most when they need something...the ones who always want to tell you their problems but almost never have time to hear yours...the ones that deep down inside you know you should give this person the boot, but they are good for having a good time and not a sober moment. These I am calling convenience friends. With friends like these where is the self-growth and who is really using who, because these are the ones who are only out to benefit themselves...
When I select a friend ( I say select because everyone should have an interview process for those who they want to include in their lives) I look for those who have something going for themselves...meaning they are on my goal oriented level or better...if they are not where they want to be, they at least have a plan to get there and have the drive to get there. Not just a lump on a log with plans of going somewhere but not gathering what they need to move...these people can bring you down and/or make you complacent where you are when you could be striving for so much more...
Throughout my life I have always had a tight knit circle of friends and many associates that just never made the cut...they were the ones that were good for a good time but not for sober moments. There is a lot you can find out about a person within a few minutes of being around them, especially when they are around people whom they have known for a while...either you will see their true colors which you will like or dislike, or you will see that this person is a "Human Chameleon"(note the previous blog). And this is why I feel an interview process is necessary, because you don't need a lot of non-trustworthy people around you when you need to vent or share special moments...this is when a backstabber is born. (I'll leave that one for another time :))
But in closing, evaluate your circle from time to time, because times change including financial, marital, social, etc. and sometimes good things begin to wither over time. Maintaining a good upkeep can ensure that watching your back in the process is the least of your worries, because you will have reliable people around you to cover whatever angle you may miss.
So how many of them do you really have?
