2012...Spaceship Flow...Ready for take-off...

2011 was definitely a rollercoaster ride...I remember starting the year off saying that this was going to be my year and so many things were going to be in the up and up...mostly because my favorite number is 11, so I just knew things were going to go my way.
One thing I will definitely say about 2011 is that it opened my eyes up to a lot of reality of the matters and I was forced to remove my rose colored glasses on certain situations, which I never thought was possible to do...I know one thing is for sure, if I never had Faith before I have it now, because after being forced to my knees multiple times in prayer and having the strength to get back up and keep moving...I know that He watches over me!
People that I thought were friends and people that I thought I could one day call my friends true colors were revealed...I felt like I had a target on my back and everyone was trying to Mission Impossible their way in to crack my code of self-destruction...
But I rose up and looked all of my enemies in the face...even when I felt like I was sleeping with the enemy...I smiled and turned the other cheek and walked away...(Never been one to do that so definitely out of my element ;-))
There is a bigger journey for me...this is not my fight...so for the year 2012 I am making a forward progression and not looking back...there is nothing back there for me any longer...and I will walk by Faith with my eyes closed and my arms outstretched...as I prepare for take-off...no rearviews on this mission...
Spaceship Flow 2012!!!

My Word Is My Bond...Or Is It...

I used to be a firm believer in a person's word is their bond. Like if I say that I will have your back regardless then that is what I mean. Not saying that if you do something wrong then I won't tell you that behind closed doors, because I will, but to everyone else they will only see and know our strong bond. This to me is Loyalty. Many will have their own definition, but I believe it all comes from the same root.
People are so quick to ask for and want someone to be loyal to them, whether in a friendship, marriage, or a business partnership, but at what cost are they willing to return the favor? 
If I sign a contract to be a part of your company, then that is considered a pledge of loyalty, right? Meaning that whatever goes on behind those walls of a business setting...should stay behind them and regardless of what I may or may not agree with...things should remain there, right? 
Because the words that I placed on that piece of paper that forms my name is bond...or is it?
Do we overlook or take for granted the power and meaning of words...do we try to make a "loop hole" out of something we placed our name on, such as a binding document?
My answer is Yes! Reason being...if everyone stood behind "My word is bond"...then we wouldn't have as many court tv shows broadcasting right now...where their main arguments are someone owns them money and haven't paid them back as planned...Or someone signed an agreement for something and services weren't rendered...or divorce filings...and late or absent child support payments...this list can go on.
So you tell me...Is Your Word Your Bond?

How many of us have them

Friends.
When you take a thorough look at your circle of confidants, advice-givers, cried on shoulders, lenders but never return, and etc. do you see what you strive to become or do you see an convenience? When I say convenience what I'm referring to is those friends who you hear from the most when they need something...the ones who always want to tell you their problems but almost never have time to hear yours...the ones that deep down inside you know you should give this person the boot, but they are good for having a good time and not a sober moment. These I am calling convenience friends. With friends like these where is the self-growth and who is really using who, because these are the ones who are only out to benefit themselves...
When I select a friend ( I say select because everyone should have an interview process for those who they want to include in their lives) I look for those who have something going for themselves...meaning they are on my goal oriented level or better...if they are not where they want to be, they at least have a plan to get there and have the drive to get there. Not just a lump on a log with plans of going somewhere but not gathering what they need to move...these people can bring you down and/or make you complacent where you are when you could be striving for so much more...
Throughout my life I have always had a tight knit circle of friends and many associates that just never made the cut...they were the ones that were good for a good time but not for sober moments. There is a lot you can find out about a person within a few minutes of being around them, especially when they are around people whom they have known for a while...either you will see their true colors which you will like or dislike, or you will see that this person is a "Human Chameleon"(note the previous blog). And this is why I feel an interview process is necessary, because you don't need a lot of non-trustworthy people around you when you need to vent or share special moments...this is when a backstabber is born. (I'll leave that one for another time :))
But in closing, evaluate your circle from time to time, because times change including financial, marital, social, etc. and sometimes good things begin to wither over time. Maintaining a good upkeep can ensure that watching your back in the process is the least of your worries, because you will have reliable people around you to cover whatever angle you may miss.
So how many of them do you really have?

The Human Chameleon...

Why do people feel the need to lie and portray themselves to be someone that they're not, and get upset when the person they lied to finds out and wants nothing to do with them? Could it be that they believe that they will never be figured out and that they can hide the truth forever? It's like living in a fantasy world, where whatever you create in your mind magically appears...kind of like when we were kids playing make-believe. But what happens when someone lies about their financial stability and over time things begin to get shut off and repossessed...how do you explain that to someone who you live with after you told them that you had everything under control? I could understand if that person lost his/her job, but when there is no negative change in the income, how do you look someone who is depending on you to be responsible enough to take care of certain matters in the eye, when everything begins to crumble around you both? Is that person wrong for being upset and disappointed, especially when you expect them to pick up everything without fair warning?
In my opinion, I feel that if you are going to have a relationship with someone then everything needs to be put on the table and that way there are no surprises. You should give the other person the opportunity to say 'yes I want to help you work through these tough times' or 'no I just don't think this will work out'. It's not fair to anyone to be put in a situation and have such hopes for a future, when the other person's ducks aren't in a row along with your own. Especially not with today's economy, finances can definitely make or break a lot of situations, and being a human chameleon is definitely not a good way to start a future with anyone.
Not even in friendships...nobody really wants a Yes man/woman...or do they? If you surround yourself with people who enjoy fitting in by ensuring that they agree with everything you say or do, then how do you know if what's going on around you is right or wrong? It's like wearing white pants after Labor Day...if your 'Yes circle' tells you that you look fabulous in them and that you can wear them year round because that's what you want to hear then how do you get a feel for anything else? How do you get the chance to experience change and what do you have to look forward to after Memorial day?? :) Back on topic...human chameleons are not something that you should have cohabitating your life...unless that's your thing...

Hello World of Blogging...

Is it normal for me to be so excited about writing my first post but having a mind full of randomness...
Maybe I will start this new relationship between us off slow... I am a Sagittarius and up until a few years ago I was addicted to Astrology...I mean I was checking my signs, meanings, and compatibilites about as much as everyone checks and updates their FB and Tweets. It was crazy but I was so excited to test what I was reading and link it to the way people really were and how they would interact with each other. But then I recall hearing or did I read...I'm not sure but anyway, that astrology is like looking into the future and trying to control certain outcomes and of course that goes against God and the Bible. Now before you shy away and say "oh no...not a religious nut!"...By the way if you were thinking that...shame on you! :) But no I am not as deep into religion as I would one day like to be and as long as the Bible states turn the other cheek...I'm not sure if I will have the golden ticket for my entry. But He's not through with me yet! Needless to say, I still find myself occasionally reading a horoscope and asking someone what's their sign and I'm still trying to identify something in the sky other than the Big and Little Dipper. :)
As my profile states, I love video games! First person shooter all day!!! Let's get it...lol! It's an outstanding stress reliever! Speaking of stress...you might find a few post of mine that are a bit outraged...like I said He ain't through with me yet, and the job field that I am in doesn't exactly allow me to react to some people's way of life like I would like to, so I will share it with you all, in hopes that someone will understand and or be able to help me see a new light...that was definitely a run-on sentence and I'm not going back to correct it...sorry English teachers! :)
Well anyway, traveling bloggers...hopefully you will return and stay tuned to what goes on In my mind...cause right now it's time for FOOTBALL!!!!! :)
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